You know how there are different colors assigned for different areas of awareness? The one that immediately comes to mind is the pink ribbon for breast cancer awareness. And I know about grey or silver for various brain diseases because a college friend of Phil’s died a number of years ago and we wore bracelets. Well, apparently there’s a long list of colored ribbons and what they mean.
I recently discovered another one. Shortly after losing Shiloh, I was scouring the web for blog posts and articles, trying to deal with my grief. To my dismay, I learned that October 15th – my birthday – is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.
While it obviously hurts to think about what is lost, to focus on it, remember, think ahead to what is missing and what will never be, it is also important to me to honor Shiloh. And to remember all those other women and families who have been touched by this particular kind of grief.
From the October15th website:
“Everyone is invited to light a candle on October 15th at 7pm in all time zones, all over the world. If everyone lights a candle… and keeps it burning for at least an hour, there will be a continuous wave of light over the entire world…”
*Edited to add: Here are some additional ways from the October15th website to help and spread awareness during the month of October.
Another discovery which touched my heart is the Carly Marie Project Heal website. Her art – like the one above – speaks to those who have experienced this intense loss. She organizes a bunch of projects – like Memorial Beach Art with your baby’s name and beautiful images carved into the sand, Capture Your Grief where you explore a subject word each day and take meaningful photographs, and the Prayer Flag Project for making a memorial flag for the one you have lost.
Even though the official project day is over, I really want to make one of these for Shiloh. I love what her website says about the prayer flags:
“The tradition of hanging Prayer Flags dates back thousands of years. It is believed that once the Prayer Flags are hung up, the breeze takes the prayers and carries them all over the world.”
So, whether or not you know someone who has been touched by infant loss – whether it be a miscarriage, stillbirth, or loss of a baby – please light a candle on October 15th to honor and support those around you. Add your brilliance to the Waves of Light.
*See my Angel Baby Pinterest board for other inspiring links, quotes, songs, etc.